Des Moines Women’s Club Memorial Service & A Note of Farewell from Trisha “Trixie” Hunter

*Des Moines Women’s Club Memorial Service & A Note of Farewell from Trisha “Trixie” Hunter: the Butterfly Effect*

*Love is like a butterfly: It goes where it pleases and it pleases where it goes. ~Author Unknown*

Being a new member in the 2014-2015 year, yesterday was my first memorial service I had attended for the Des Moines Women’s Club on May 6th, 2015. I had heard a bit about it, but to experience it firsthand was even more delightful.

Linda McFarlane played a beautiful piece on her flute for the music prelude. Nancy Ross then welcomed the members and welcomed the families who also came to the service to honor their loved ones.

Opening remarks were made by Kathy Crall.

The Des Moines Women’s Club Chorus (consisting of myself, Rosemary Hillman, Janice Cord, Dorothy Perry, Joann Young, Paula Schafer and….) sang *Somewhere Over the Rainbow* for our first piece.

Wendy Roberts read a poem titled “A Butterfly Hovers Closely” which I want to share with you know for those who were unable or did not attend.

A Butterfly Hovers Closely

A butterfly hovers closely

And then quickly moves away,

Swiftly going where so ever

Her heart may freely say.

A butterfly lowers and rises

With the winds gusty breath,

As if coupled within a dance

Of loving tenderness.

The butterfly only knows

How it feels to have wings

To kiss the petals of flowers

In elegant flitterings.

To have but one moment

Of such an exquisite flight,

Would be like a dream

Where all seems so right.

Author Unknown

After Wendy read the poem, Kathy Griffin helped us to remember each name that passed away in the past year of DWC season.

The names and faces we lost this year were named off, and then Kathy Crall and Liz Teufel, President and President Elect placed a pink rose in the vase for each person whose name was called. They took turns placing the flowers in that vase as Kathy Griffin read aloud the name and a little something to remember them by.

The names we lost this year were as follows (get the names and little anecdotes per person to enter here):

Adelle Elizabeth Catlin Capps

Pauline H. Holt

Novelynn “Noddy” Lawson

Shirley N. Smith

JoLee (Reid) Scaraborough

Ruth Perry Eckles

Margret T. McEwan

Venita Carmen Wells

Jeanette E. Nall

Nancy J. Johnston

Once the names were read and the placing of the flowers was complete, the Des Moines Women’s Club Chorus sang It’s a Wonderful World.

In closing Alice Bell read aloud a poem “*A Butterfly Lights Beside Us” and then gave her closing remarks.*

A Butterfly Lights Beside Us

A butterfly lights beside us,

Like a sunbeam…

And for a brief moment, it’s glory

And beauty belong to our world…

But then it flies on again

And although we wish it could have stayed

We are so thankful to have seen it at all.

It was such an endearing tradition, so sweet and sincere. It was moving to me how the flowers were placed in the vase for each name. It was heartwarming to be able to not only partake in the service, but to also be a part of it.

I will write this in my book as another fond memory added to all the others of the Des Moines Women’s Club I will carry with me as I leave this fine organization as well, though not in death, yet in life onto other chapters of my life as I move to a new home, wed a fabulous man and move on with my life in new ways.

As I left the club yesterday, sadness entered my heart as I felt the time coming closer for me to leave these fine ladies. I hoped in my heart that they had felt the love for them as much as I felt the love they had for me.

Perhaps I too, like the butterfly, had touched their lives while I was beside them. I pray that my energy and shine and savor for life touched the lives of the ladies in the club as much as their light, love and tenderness have touched mine. I know many wish I could have stayed, just like the butterfly, yet I pray in my heart that they were thankful to have known me, as much as I am thankful to have known them.

Thank you to the women of the Des Moines Women’s Club.

You touched my life and heart in a way that no one ever has.

You have left an impression on my heart that will stay forever.

*My life changed the moment I entered through the door of this fine establishment.*

My friendships grew

My heart burst with love and adoration

My cup runneth over so much I could not catch it

I never would imagine the bonds I created

  • in such a short amount of time.*

*My life will never be the same and there will never be another group of women*

Who have touched, enriched, and nourished my life and my heart

As much as you have done mine.

*I hope my life, energy and abundance for life touched and enriched your lives*

*And that I have left a positive influence and impression on you like you have done mine.*

I leave you with a knowing that I will see you once again

Whether in life or in death

And I know ere which I will go

I will always have a friend

And I will always have a home


The Des Moines Women’s Club.

*For more info on the Butterfly Effect: *

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Sincerely with love,

Trisha “Trixie” Hunter

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